The 3 Ps

Yan's Dairy 2 - I not baby hor, I 5 yr old already

2007-01-14T21:12:00.000-08:00

Yan's just celebrated his 4th birthday in Nov, but he is already eager to be 5. Well, I beleive in School(childcare) the teacher must have told them that they are 5 years old this year and they are in K1. I like to call him baby and he will reply " I not baby hor, I 5 year old already"....

Can't remember was it 11 Dec or 18 Dec, Yan suddenly said that he wanted to shower himself during bath-time. Well, I thought,why not. So I turn on the shower head for him. I told him that I would stayed outside the bathroom to watch him shower. Wow!!! I was so amazed, he really can shower himself, rubbing the shampoo on head and shower cream on his body, I just need to help him on the back where he can't reach and after which off the shower head when he was done...I gave him 100marks or whatever maximum mark I can give, I am really impressed by this 4 year old boy!!!! Well, as his mischievous nature the next few days even now, when I let him shower on his own, he will have lots of fun inside the bathroom & start to splash water when I stayed outside watching...unlike the first time when he tried to proof himself, so well behaved....hahaha...that's my boy lah.

Yan's Diary 1 - Every = All

2006-12-25T03:02:00.001-08:00

Yan often said "all_body..."

Well that's Yan's language, so cute...tho I often have to correct him, " its Everybody not All_body"...but how do you explain??? 'Every' and 'All' to certain extend carried the same meaning....hahaha...

Yan's Diary 1- Every = All

2006-12-25T03:02:00.000-08:00

影子... ...

2006-11-21T21:05:00.000-08:00

偶然间,一位友人向我诉说了他对某人的爱慕.他会因某人说的某些话而高兴一阵天,也会因某人的一句话难过不已....会因某人做了一些事而兴奋,也因某人的一些举动而感到不快乐....某人的微笑可以使他有一阵天的好心情,某人的不快乐也能让他悲伤....

虽然,没有一一帮他数看某人带给他的快乐多一些,还是悲伤多一点....但觉得活在别人的影子里真的会快乐吗??....我觉得,人应该活出自己.快乐与悲伤,虽说不能百分之一百的掌握在手里,但很多时候,是可以自我控制与选择的....

做为他的朋友我也只能细细宁听和说出自己的看法.要不要跳出别人的影子,也只能由他自己决定了.不论如何,每个人必尽不一样.他的决定并没那么重要,重要的是他能得到真正的幸福....

我祝福....!!!

Dilemma...

2006-09-25T18:03:00.000-07:00

In the dictionary it means "situation offering a choice between two equally undesirable/desirable alternatives.

I have been put into such situation quite often lately, or should I say I have been using the word "dilemma" quite often lately....?

But to me...actually...we don't have to be bothered by it too much or think too much. Because no matter which option we chose, it will branch out to different options again...and it is the unknown that we are choosing from...we can only base on our gut feel and analysis to choose the one that we think most likely giving us the best outcome, but the key word is "most likely" and nothing is definite....the predicted best outcome might not come true, instead might be disaster....so wat if we make a bad choice, where the whole world telling u that that's a wrong decision...things might turn out otherwise or it might branch out to other options which will lead u to the outcome that u most desired.....whatever it is, NO BODY KNOWS

Now that I am again in a dilemma, sigh....I will think what is best at this moment, cos even at the end of it that it is not a good choice at least I know that that's my choice and I have a reason for choosing it, so no regret...and if I move on it might lead me to other opportunity....

Kids Therapy

2006-08-27T21:49:00.000-07:00

Brought Yan to my work place on Sat(26/8/06)

We spent most of our time at the Nursing home, most Ah mah and Ah pak was happy to see kids around, some even search their drawer and table to find sweets and biscults to offer... was a bit worry initiately that its overwhelming for Yan...but after awhile, Yan even move close to the bed rail and extend his hand out to shake the ah pak's and ah mah's hands without me even asking. Some started hugging and kissing him, he appearred to be a bit shy but was fine...

Guess all of us, Ah pak, ah mah, Yan and myself enjoyed this meaningful trips!

我要去旅行了... ...

2006-08-25T01:35:00.000-07:00

在偶然谈话中,我和好友突然发现我们认识了19年,却还从没一起出过国!!所以决定了这次的旅游...

决定了去柬埔寨是我最高兴不过的.因为这是我一直想去的国家.我甚至计划想要有一天自己一个人背包到这个国家去.当然,因为安全理由家人并不很看好我的这个想法...

现在,我终于可以和我最好的朋友一起去啦!!!

好友对这次旅行有好多的想发.因为知道了柬埔寨有很多孩子们没机会上学而伦为小乞丐的社会问题.我们俩积极的想要尽自己的小小力量为他们做些什么.这些日子来的绸备已让我们俩的生活变的更加有意义与充实了... ...

柬埔寨! 我来了!!

殷正洋戏歌说唱会

2006-08-20T18:15:00.000-07:00

19/8/06
E....我们到了入口处,怎么没看到下期的说唱会海报??十月没有说唱会吗?

殷正洋一出场我先被他的身型吸引住...我是因为重逢才记起这个名字的.那时并没主意到他有那么高(约180吧)

再吓!!他一开口,我简直被他的声音迷住了.一阵晚陶醉在他的柔声细语和辽亮歌声中,心里浮线了---"他真的唱到我心里面去了!"

Shhh...不要告诉别人我迷恋了他一个晚上.....(secret ou)

放心... ...

2006-07-27T17:08:00.000-07:00

我的两个死党是中学时期的玩伴,一直到今天....

对她们,我有时会有过度的关心.记得她们在poly的时后交了男朋友,我一直担心她们生活经验不够啦!那男孩是否是好人啦!等等的问号.不过当时,我选择了压抑自己的担忧,因为相信她们知道自己要的是什么...

到了大家都长大,结婚,甚至生子了.每次她们与我出去夜归时,我都会打电话给她们,或要求她们打电话给我,或sms以确保她们安全到家,我才得以安心睡觉.而她们也从不厌烦的"向我报道"

慢慢的我开始说服我自己,她们已经长大了,会保护自己的,我要学会放心,这也是对她们的一种尊重....

陈升恨情歌说唱会

2006-06-11T22:39:00.000-07:00

哈哈...正如我预测的,两个月后又有一场演唱会,八月十九号-殷正洋说唱会...

说真的陈升说唱会刚开始时的好几首歌,还真的勾不起我什么回亿...但喜欢他的直帅随性与对人生的见解... ...

The Anatomy of Hope

2006-06-04T22:32:00.000-07:00

Recently read a book, title "The Anatomy of Hope". Borrowed from a good friend of mine in healhcare

While reading this book, it gave me a feeling that I was reading a novel, cos what were done were so ideal to me...However, saying that, this book was written by a doctor based on his own encounters.

The book highlighted the importance of True Hope. Its really a wake up call for everybody, not limiting to only healthcare workers. Hope can really do wonders. To illness and to individual wellbeing...

Knock knock to also my little head, life is always full of things to do and list of busy schedule, but one should constantly remind oneself that we(healthcare worker) are not just treating the disease but we are treating the person... ...

善意 vs 伤害

2006-04-25T17:41:00.000-07:00

我最好的朋友的姐姐,大我们四岁.在我眼里是一位漂亮`有气质`又善解人意的大姐姐,至今还是.最感动我的是在她的婚宴里,她温柔的带我走到一桌坐满陌生人的面前,她并没介绍我伪"My sister best friend..."而是告诉他们"This is a very special friend of mine. Please take good care of her."听了她这么一说,我原本紧张`害怕的心立刻平稳了很多.还有一回,在美发院里她告诉美发师,"She is our family friend..."这些看似简单的话也许没有人记得了,但却深印在我心里...

在读poly的时后,我在Yesterday's Cafe Bar打工.那是让下了班的人放纵`结压的场所.其中,就有一个"熟悉"的长客,他就是大姐姐的男朋友.经常跟别的女人钩肩搭背,看了就有气.再加上听到了很多对他负面的评语,是气上加气.这种举动在那种场所当然很平常.但,气的是因为他是大姐姐的男朋.对当时只有十七岁的我来说,他不是个好男人,大姐姐跟他在一起不会有幸福.有一天,我终于忍不住把这些事告知好友,让她紧提姐姐...几天后好友告诉我姐姐听了她的话后反应是沉默并且显的有点伤心.听了好友的话后,我顿时感到后悔对大姐姐的伤害... ...

当然,大姐姐是成熟的,几年后,我也参加了他们的婚宴...

事格多年,我也不是要追究自己做的对与不对`该与不该.但这件事后,让我明白了看事物不要太表面... ...

来不及说的谢谢... ...

2006-04-24T22:08:00.000-07:00

几个星期前的周末,我到了超市买了很多东西.刚上了巴士,两手大包小包的一大堆东西,前面和我同站上车的搭客挡住了我的视线.这时司机开车了,当我正在想法子平衡自己时(因为两手无法捉住任何东西)突然眼角发现了一位妇女正朝着我伸出她的手想助我一臂之力... ... 我平衡了自己后,马上找了位子坐好.因为只有两站,我又冲冲下车了.下车后,我突然想起刚刚那位妇女.虽然,刚才她并没有真的拉住我,但她那小小的举动却让我觉得很感激.不过,刚才我却没跟她道谢,连一个微笑也没回给她...

有些时后,一些看起来象是小小的举动却有可能对别人来说就有着很大的定义...再想想生活里是不是有很多我们忘了说谢谢的人??现在就去说谢谢吧!可别等到来不及说的时后!

黄舒骏2006未央歌说唱会

2006-04-23T17:11:00.000-07:00

4月22日2006年...我复约了...

深情`辽亮的好歌声,加上如诗的淑情歌曲与深入人心的歌词....又是一种一游未劲的感觉.

感觉他的歌词里都让人觉得他看人生`感情都非常深入.如他所说的他帮人们表达了人们不董表达的心....

虽说他的歌词都蛮现实的,但他自己是不是在现实生活中还在期待一些完美呢... ...?

Its my lucky day

2006-04-07T15:40:00.000-07:00

6 April 2006
Its another good Thursday morning for me, because my visiting ST is here today and I know I can learn new things again. In the afternoon, we have lunch in the school today(he has been eating in the hospital for all his past visit) and as usual he got to rush for his next appointment.

Sitting down in front of my PC, I was checking my email....."What!!....this Ah pek that we just seen this morning will be discharged to home on Sunday?!!....." me shouting!! (sound funny, right? I should be happy when patients are discharging home....why did I react this way?)Well, thats's b'cos.....

3 weeks ago, this Ah pek was scheduled for ST assessment. It has always been tight schedule for ST, he can never finish the patients we scheduled(I always schedule more patients, in case he can see 1 or 2 extra or when patients in the priority is not available) so prioritzing the patients' schedule is very important. Ah pak was the last patient ST seen on that morning. It was a quick assessment as patient wasn't very ready. No instruction for me to carry out therapy with him, he continued his NGT, ST scheduled to review him again the week after, but we didn't got the chance, as ST is always seeing new cases.

3 weeks later...
Yesterday, while I was getting ready the patients' schedule for my ST, I notice this ah pek has been scheduled to next week(been adjusted by other staff). Knowing that the previous assessment was a quick one, I feel that we should see him again asap. So I bought forward his appointment.

Good news!!! ST recommended that we can trial him on oral diet(he is on NGT). Immediately I arranged a meal supervision on Friday(the next day), the first trial has to be carried out by me.

Then after lunch..... Sitting down in front of my PC, I was checking my email....."What!!....this Ah pek that we just seen this morning will be discharged to home on Sunday!!....." This left us with little time to trial him on oral diet!! Immediately, I called up the ward & get Staff nurse to arrange for a dinner meal supervision this evening @ 5pm instead. Diet came up late @ 5.40pm... Ah pek's son was there, was very happy to know that I am trying his dad on diet(the original plan was to discharge him with NGT). Completed my trial, did the documentation, I rushed down to my office. I prepared a email with as much information as I can for ST to give advise, to be sure he see my email I sent him an SMS....but SHIT!!! His reply was that he has another appointment after his badminton session tonight.....might not be able to reply my email!!!

My mind was running wild for some ideas.
Lucky Strike!!

-I called my MSW good friend and she was just about to leave office. I get her to print out my email(cos' the other office where the printer is was locked when all staff go home).
-I called my good friend PT who will be meeting my ST for badminton session.(I have just introduced them during lunch & this is the 1st time they are playing together). He has left home but was at the nearby MRT.
- I got the PT to wait for awhile, and my MSW who was on the way back, pass my email to him & for him to pass to my ST.
-the next day, my ST managed to scribble his advise on the printout that I gave him & my good friend PT brought it back for me.
-immediately, I went to the doctor incharge & updated him of the status. It was so lucky that this doc will be on call on Sat, and can help to monitor the oral trial & make decision to wean off NGT...

Sigh.....Its my lucky day....or was it that the ah pak was lucky!

過程。。。。。。

2006-03-03T18:48:00.000-08:00

昨天深夜，當我把電視遙控按來安去時，看到了一部舊時的電影，三個男人尋找同一个女孩的过程.故事环绕着三個男人尋找女孩时的过程中,各自遇到了另外一个女孩,并在不知不觉中发展了三段感情.最后三個男人虽然一起找到了那个女孩, 但三個男人却发现自己的心已经不在那个女孩了.后来,三個男人跟那過程中遇到的另外三个女孩都有不同的结局.

尋找过程中的其中一个女孩是由舒淇似演的,是她告诉三個男人,他们尋找的那女孩的行踪.戏里她告诉男孩,她喜欢的是那個過程,陪男孩找人的過程,她不管结局是怎么样,虽然她知道男孩在找到女孩后这過程就会结束.....

很多时后,结局并没那么重要,重要的是我们享受到的過程.而我们回忆的大多也是那個過程.所以在你努力奋斗的当而,不要只是想着结局.记得!也一定要享受一切的過程... ...

南方二重唱小型演唱会

2006-03-02T16:39:00.000-08:00

我们四人到场了...虽然他们有的对南方二重唱并不太熟悉,但他们还是陪着我出席了.

南方二重唱的歌声真的让我听出耳油.虽然站了三个多小时却是一游未劲.陶醉了又陶醉...特别是那最后一首"相知相守",想了一整晚要点的歌却想不出歌名来.当小南方说要唱这首"相知相守"时,我心里立克有种"哇!!好完美的结束...."

好友原本想先回去,但还是倍我到演唱会结束... ...为了陪我的也好,为了听好歌的也好,为了陪老婆的也好,为了什么都好.感动我的不只是南方的歌声,更加上好友的陪伴.因为是好友,因为是身边亲密的人,才会如此陪伴.看我如此陶醉而不忍心扫我的兴.真的太谢谢你们了!!!

重逢5

2006-02-26T16:31:00.000-08:00

昨天与朋友又再度回到重逢...今年已是重逢5了.

2004年在听FM97.2时,知道了重缝3的演唱会,便买了票与老公一起去回味年少时爱听的新摇...当时再次见到好多可说是"新摇原佬"的歌手,又再度听到一首首熟悉的新摇...还有不忘了台湾歌手带来的动听民摇,仿佛回到了学生时代爱唱歌的自己...演唱会结束后,突然有一种莫名的感动和骄傲.能生在新摇时代,惟一代表新加坡华语歌坛的年代,我真的觉得好骄傲,好幸福哦!!

Busy......??!!!

2006-02-11T16:47:00.001-08:00

"Busy" what a common word used in today's society.....everyday somehow you will hear someone say the word "busy"....one time, two times....or more....

YES! We live in a society that is demanding & stressful.....we have multiple role, we have so many responsibilities, we wanted to do so many thing in so little time.....But as we get busy, have we forgotten why we are so busy? What have made us so busy? We are busy for what/who?......

Doctor said :" Sorry, I am too busy to discuss about the patient..."

Nurses said :"Sorry, I am too busy to attend to the patient...."

Medical Social Worker said :" Sorry, I am too busy with all this documentation that I have no time to talk to the patient and meet the family...."

Husband said :" I worked so hard outside so that I can bring more money back for my family. So I am too busy to have time to spend with my family...."

Teenage boyfriend said :" I work so many partime jobs for the past few months so that I can save enough money to buy my girlfriend an expensive birthday gift....I am so busy that I have not seen by girlfriend for 1 month...."

Busy, busy, busy.....we all have our reasons to be so busy.....but have we forgotten what made us so busy???!!!

Doctor, by its job nature busy around patient, but if doctor said that he/she is too busy to discuss about patient, then, where does the busy come from??? May be busy with other patients but not this patient, then why this patient is not part of the busy list???

Nurses, suppose to take care of the sick/unable, but if they are too busy to attend to them when they needed to, then where does the busy list come from???

Medical Social worker :" Great job that take care of the welfare and social issue of the needy. But if they are too busy to talk to patient and family, how would they know what the patient and family need, what the patient and family want?? How can paper work be properly documented????

Husband, who love his family, want the family to live comfortably, secure, no worries about financial.....but how can a family be completed without a husband having time with the family. Can the family still be happy?? Financial security but no quality time with the family, is this what the family want...is this the family only needs???

Lovely teenage boyfriend, complaining that the girlfriend is too childish, not understanding. He work so hard day & night, he is so busy all because of her. But is the expensive gift what she really want. Are we busy for the right thing????

So the next time we said we are busy, think, what make us so busy, what is the busy meant for!! Think again!! Make your busy worth

SAVE THE EARTH.....small act, means BIG

2006-01-17T21:17:00.000-08:00

I was in Australia for a period of time and also I like to travel. I finally made a trip to Europe in 2004.....

When I was doing my first shopping....mmm...nope...should be marketing in Australia. When I was doing my marketing in the supermarket, I feel a bit weird. The cashier key in all the items that I bought and just leave them by the side and start serving the next customers. I was a bit lost (for just split second, lucky, else I would look so dumb), very quickily I spotted a customer who was at the cashier in front of me packing his own stuff with his own plastic bags. Awakened... instantly, I took the plastic bags, which were available by the side of the counter and started packing....

Few years have passed...Singapore has also been eagerly promoting Environmental Friendly... Every weekend, when I do my marketing at the supermarket, the cashier will pack n categorize my stuff so nicely into different bags. I ended having lots of plastic bags at home. Well this might be part of their good customer service. Each time I have to repack at the counter and manage to 'save' 1 or 2 bags for them.

Now, I always have a few plastic bags handy in my bag. Once it reached my turn, I will tell the cashier "I don't need bags". They will stared at me for awhile, like I am from some foreign space. Then I will add on "I have got my own bags"....
These bags are actually quite durable... It can be used at least 2-3 times as a carrier bags.
Hmmm.....some might think that it look a bit "uncle/aunty" to carry plastic bags around...fold it lah!!!

That's just one small part we can do to SAVE THE EARTH.....be GREEN!!!!

Do U have time for exercise...?

2006-01-04T21:13:00.000-08:00

Guess it have been hard for most people to find time to exercise...My secret receipe to do my exercise daily...well not exactly daily, but at least 5-6 times a week - "Build" it into your life!! Yeah.. ezy to say than done...Well quite true, not easy.

How....
When I first started with my current job, 2 years ++ ago, I used to need to take 2 buses before I reached my work place. Then I decided to walk to the bus-stop where I took my 2nd bus. It took me about 17min walking(brisk walk) from my block to the bus-stop. After work, if I do go back home straight from work, I will walk back too. Hey, not only that I get to exercise everyday, I safe some transport $$$ and also waiting time for the bus!!

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